KITA KITA (I See You) Movie

Sampung bilang ng katotohanan na nakita sa pelikulang KITA KITA.

ISA.  Isa sa libong tao na makakasama natin ang magpapakita at mag paparamdam kung paano tayo dapat mahalin. Tiwala lang, bes.

DALAWA. Dalawang mata na minsan hindi nakakakita kahit may mali na. Bulag, di nakakakita, di nakakapansin, dahil sa iba nakatitig. Madalas makakakita lang kapag ang pag-ibig ay nawala na.

TATLO. Tatlo, Apat, Limang taon, wala talaga sa tagal ng isang relasyon, kapag hindi pa sya ready, hindi pa sya ready. Kapag hindi ka na mahal, hindi ka na mahal. Madalas lang talaga na may mga duwag na lolokohin ka pa, hindi na lang makipag hiwalay agad. Pisti. Be a Tonyo in this world full of Nobu. Pwede ba!

APAT. Apat na salitang di ko makakalimutan "Only time can tell." Tagos eh!

LIMA. Limang uri ng pagmamahal.
Pagmamahal na bulag (one unique character lang na nagustuhan mo, kahit ano pa sya tanggap mo na)
Pagmamahal na paasa (naniwala ka na sa sinabi nya, kalokohan lang pala.)
Pagmamahal na traydor (pinagpalit ka sa mukang pusa.)
Pagmamahal na bitin (ganun talaga, minsan hindi happy ending.)
Pagmamahal na wagas (oo meron nyan, magtagal man o hindi, ramdam mo na totoo yun, greatest love kumbaga.)

"Princess of God" : Not Simple As It Is

"We are God's princesses; men should treat us with love and respect. We should not lower our standard for them. The right man will come for us."

A statement I heard from a woman.

I think some ladies are getting it wrong. I once was and am still learning from it.

Here are my initial reaction whenever I hear those:
1. Are we actually behaving like a princess?
2. Are we the right person for the right person that we are praying for?





Those phrases were true. I have nothing against it, but we have to put it in the right perspective.

Being a princess of God comes with so much more. Princess like thinking without backing it up with character is an issue that we have to deal with.

Yes, we are the Father's princess but we must think, behave and develop a character like one.

Physically.

It must be seen on how you dress. Ladies should always dress well and decent. You can be sexy without being revealing. To be seen as someone simple yet beautiful is far better than sexy. Respect is something we gain not something we impose. That is equally true if we want men to respect us. Learn to dress properly!


Mind and Soul.

It must be our goal to be a beautiful woman with beautiful heart.

We need to have an open mind and a teachable heart for this matter. We should learn and value the wisdom that our parents and elders are providing us. We will learn a lot from them.

Read your bible, God's wisdom is superb!
You can also read books, listen to podcast and other stuff to widen your horizon. Never stop learning! Be a woman of substance!

WHEN HE CHOSE RELIGION OVER YOU.

What will you do if someone you love can't love you fully because of your religion?

You are reading this most likely because you have this agony of whether to fight or to just let it go.

Let me say these words to you. This is just an opinion but it might help.  :)

Let us put ourselves in this scenario.

You are in a relationship with someone whose religion is different from you. Let us say, He is a catholic while you are a christian born-again.

He valued his religion more than you-- him being a Catholic. He broke up with you or probably treated you badly because he is in doubt.

Your faith being a born-again Christian is what at stake. It is your source of strength. You are at peace with it.

You even did not ask him to give up his faith for you, as it is also his source of strength, he is at peace with it. You respect it.

But still, he gave you this reason to end the relationship.

You are wondering why it has to be a reason. Why you can't be together because of it?

Let me tell you this...

To my now friend, later best friend, soon girlfriend and future wife part 2!

I am fascinated by the blog of this man, on how he really wanted to honor God with his relationship. So I am re-blogging his thoughts.God bless you brother! :)

At certain point of my life, I met a woman who help me to be better person. She is a woman of simplicity, discipline, righteousness and conviction. Grace is completely eminent into her life. Many acknowledges her beauty but what's transpires to me most is her soft loving fragile heart. She is a woman of faith, an agent of love and a source of hope to many. This woman inspire me to grow in my relationship with the Lord and be more closer to him than I ever was.

Then one day, I caught myself uttering words of hope through prayers that someday, she will be my princess. Each night I pray the kind of future we have, it is worth having if we're together. That the Lord is the center of our relationship and our story inspires more people to earnestly seeking him with all of their might and with all of their strength. She suddenly became the woman behind my #Dearfuturewife post.

ACCEPTING SOMEONE'S PAST

In my early 20’s, as conventional as it may sound, I wanted my partner to have never had a girlfriend before. I wanted to be his first and last. And whomever I choose to be my boyfriend, I wanted him to be my husband.

The Reason Behind.

As much as possible, I don't want a partner who invested so much emotion with someone else.
I don't like the thought of him already had both emotional and physical intimacy. I believe that those things should be reserve for marriage.


So I have lived that standard and had a boyfriend who never really had a girlfriend before. Despite of that fact, things did not work well for us. He loved a woman before me and he still loves her while being in relationship with me. Epic failed.


The Lord is Sovereign.

The Lord changed me after that season of my life. He opened my eyes to the truth that sometimes things will not work out the way we wanted it to be. Sometimes because of our stubbornness or may be that needs to happen for us to grow. He is sovereign.

STOP RUSHING LOVE: FIND SOMEONE WHO SEES YOU

Way back in 90's, we have to wait for days or weeks before receiving a letter from our loved ones. I can still remember, we even have to record voice tape messages to be sent to my Auntie in Japan and Saudi Arabia. It take so much time and effort that we really have to mean what we say in every paragraph.

While in this internet generation, everything became instant, from noodles to relationships.
People can send message real time and get to know a person much quicker because we can talk to them anytime of the day. So, it seems that the relationship will progress faster. But the frequency of us talking to each other does not change our emotional capacity to develop first so it can grow.




Older generations get to know each other first, specially us Filipinos. Our way of courtship is so beautiful. From visiting the lady in her place. Picking her up during dates and bringing her home safely on time. Paying the bills and going extra mile to win her heart. Getting to know her together with her family and friends. A process that builds fire and stoking it to last. Our generation now seems to create a fireworks display; spectacular and beautiful at first but ends quickly as it began.

Do not awaken love until it so desires. - Song of songs 2:7

We are not allowing ourselves to create foundation. We are influenced by the "instant-gratification" mindset of our society. We change our status from 'single' into 'in a relationship' back to 'single' again. Leaving us frustrated and empty. Sadly, some of this relationships could have worked if only we give it time to develop, instead of putting so much pressure to bond too soon.

He has made everything beautiful in its time. - Ecclesiastes 3:11

LOVE AND OBSESSION

Differentiate Love from Obsession..

Love - It can refer to an emotion of a strong attraction and personal attachment. It can also be a virtue representing human kindness, compassion, and affection—"the unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another".


Obsession -It is a hypothetical state in which one person feels an overwhelming obsessive desire to possess another person toward whom they feel a strong attraction, with an inability to accept failure or rejection.


A certain friend once told me, "You should know the difference of love from obsession." Something that doesn't make sense to me; I do not know what she is trying to say -- Until the day that I had clarity with my relationship. It took me sometime before I was able to figure it out.


I stepped back a little bit to see the whole picture. Seeing things from a distant will make you realized your actual stand; it will help you think what's best for you and your partner. As the questions and doubts fade away. Letting go is easier. You will understand where he/she is coming from and what's really going on to both of you. Your heart will start to process the truth that you already knew long time ago and as result; a decision with clarity will be served.

Whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable, think about such things. - Philippians 4:8

Choosing love may sometimes mean you have to move on without that person you used to cherish.

Keep this in mind: Life is a choice. Whatever has to be done, it is always your choice.
CHOOSE LOVE.

ONE-SIDED FIGHT

Some part of this were from Emily Rella. We have almost the same things to say.


Sometimes, letting go of someone means putting an end to a one-sided fight. And when you can recognize it as that, everything becomes much easier.....(though it's still not easy for real..)




I got to a point where I realized that no matter what grandeur and good the future may have held for us, it could never take back the cowardice and apathy that I had seen before. I would never be able to erase that; I could forgive but not forget, and in not being able to forget, I would always see a different person.


I have accepted the fact that the love he has for that other woman is something I cannot change. He dream for her, long for her, so I decided to exclude myself from that equation. He cannot be with me while his heart is towards her. Day after day while we were together I felt his hesitation. I felt his heart wishing to be the man who's sitting next to her. Wishing that it's the both of them who has the picture of being a happy couple. I saw it all in his eyes. I felt it in the way he treated me. It cuts my soul and broke my heart. It's too painful. "So what's the sense of staying? " I told myself.

For the good of both of us a decision has been made. I had loved him, but I didn’t like him anymore.

LETTER FROM A FRIEND

To the person who wrote this letter for me, my best friend, my apses; Thank you. I appreciate this so much. I'll be okay soon.

Google say’s Paula is a feminine form of the name Paul. They said that Paul was courageous, patient, humble, persistent, yielded to God and a forgiving person.

On the other hand, Anna was defined as favor or grace. Beautiful! Your mother have not mistakenly gave you that name! Kudos to her, such a good choice – indeed, she really has a good taste J.

For the past days, I know you’ve been hurting a lot. I know, I could never imagine the pain you are experiencing. My words of encouragement and reminders could never be enough to ease the pain. Neither the presence of your friends nor any activities that keeps your mind away from that pain. Deep inside, I know when you are alone you can still feel that pain that breaks you inch by inch, moment by moment. You’re broken, I know. And it will be needless and overly used if I keep on saying, “Trust God” because you already knew that. In painful times like this, trusting Him feed our mind but not our hearts. It’s not easy same with letting go of that pain. The more you let go of it, the more it becomes painful.